{"id":2763,"date":"2020-03-16T08:07:22","date_gmt":"2020-03-16T08:07:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gator4138.temp.domains\/~seocloud\/website_bd55b9c6\/?p=2763"},"modified":"2023-05-22T08:07:13","modified_gmt":"2023-05-22T08:07:13","slug":"mom-is-an-energy-vampire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/","title":{"rendered":"So your Mom Is An Energy Vampire &#8211; Here&#8217;s What To Do"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:56.190476190476%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:56.190476190476%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}<\/style><p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">As you may have found out in the previous articles of this series, anyone in our lives can be an energy vampire. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Some may resort to energy vampire tactics in response to a stressful time in their lives, while for others it all comes down to bad habits. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Sadly the small minority are left dealing with someone who's an energy vampire through and through and isn't looking to change their ways any time soon.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Of course, everything in life sits on a scale, and for the large majority of us, there are ways to help the energy vampire in our lives to change. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">But how do you go about this when it's your Mom that is the energy vampire? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Let's take a look at the different types of maternal energy vampire, and what to do about them.<\/span><\/p>\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_64 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseprofile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class=\"ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-toggle-hide-by-default\"><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#What_Is_An_Energy_Vampire\" title=\"What Is An Energy Vampire?\">What Is An Energy Vampire?<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#Different_Types_of_Maternal_Energy_Vampire\" title=\"Different Types of Maternal Energy Vampire\">Different Types of Maternal Energy Vampire<\/a><ul class=\"ez-toc-list-level-3\"><li class=\"ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#1_The_Gatling_Gun\" title=\"1. The Gatling Gun\">1. The Gatling Gun<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#2_The_Control_Freak\" title=\"2. The Control Freak\">2. The Control Freak<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#3_The_Nagger\" title=\"3. The Nagger\">3. The Nagger<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#4_The_Critic\" title=\"4. The Critic\">4. The Critic<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#5_Mrs_Over-Protective\" title=\"5. Mrs. Over-Protective\">5. Mrs. Over-Protective<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#Why_Is_Your_Mom_This_Way\" title=\"Why Is Your Mom This Way?\">Why Is Your Mom This Way?<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#Ways_To_Help_Your_Energy_Vampire_Mom\" title=\"Ways To Help Your Energy Vampire Mom\">Ways To Help Your Energy Vampire Mom<\/a><ul class=\"ez-toc-list-level-3\"><li class=\"ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#When_Your_Mom_Nags_Draw_Attention_To_It\" title=\"When Your Mom Nags, Draw Attention To It\">When Your Mom Nags, Draw Attention To It<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#Break_The_Flow\" title=\"Break The Flow\">Break The Flow<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#Remove_Her_Control\" title=\"Remove Her Control\">Remove Her Control<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#Tell_Her_How_You_Feel\" title=\"Tell Her How You Feel\">Tell Her How You Feel<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-14\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/mom-is-an-energy-vampire\/#Establish_Boundaries\" title=\"Establish Boundaries\">Establish Boundaries<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_Is_An_Energy_Vampire\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><strong>What Is An Energy Vampire?<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">To recap, an energy vampire is an individual who thrives by draining the positive energy from others. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The energy vampire may be aware of their behavior or completely unaware. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">There are a variety of different strategies that an <a class=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/empaths-and-energy-vampires\/\" data-lasso-id=\"800\">energy vampire<\/a> can use to get the energy they crave such as putting others down, being woeful, and being narcissistic. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Mom's, however, can often exert their energy vampire tendencies in different ways.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Different_Types_of_Maternal_Energy_Vampire\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><strong>Different Types of Maternal Energy Vampire<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2769 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire.jpg\" alt=\"woman who represent a mom energy vampire\" width=\"840\" height=\"472\" srcset=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire.jpg 840w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire-595xh.jpg 595w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire-585x329.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 24px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"eager\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2769 aligncenter eager-load\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20840%20472'%3E%3Crect%20width='840'%20height='472'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"woman who represent a mom energy vampire\" width=\"840\" height=\"472\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 24px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire.jpg.webp\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire.jpg.webp 840w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire-300x169.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire-768x432.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire-595xh.jpg.webp 595w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Maternal-Energy-Vampire-585x329.jpg.webp 585w\" data-svg=\"1\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">While of course, some maternal energy vampires are exactly as I described in the previous paragraph, most are a different breed entirely. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Their actions are often a misdirected expression of love, instead of a drive to feel superior. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Here are some common types of Maternal energy vampire:<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_The_Gatling_Gun\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; color: #33cccc;\"><strong>1. The Gatling Gun<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Ever found you can't get a word in edgeways with your Mom? Does your Mom ask your questions only to answer them herself? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Chances are your Mom is a constant talker, the human embodiment of a Gatling Gun. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Interactions with your Mom may be overwhelming and draining simply from being asked a thousand questions a minute, or having to use all your brainpower to process her jabberings. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This type of energy vampire can often be seen in Moms whose children have flown the nest and can be a sign of loneliness, combined with over-excitement that you're visiting.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_The_Control_Freak\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; color: #33cccc;\"><strong>2. The Control Freak<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Does it feel like your Mom is back-seat driving your life? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Is she trying to control what you do and when? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Do they have a set way that things are done and will become frustrated with you if you do things differently? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Chances are your Mom is a control freak. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The traits of this type of energy vampire are usually borne out of anxiety and\/or a reluctance to let go of you as their baby even though you're fully grown.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_The_Nagger\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; color: #33cccc;\"><strong>3. The Nagger<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">All Moms can be prone to nagging from time to time, but when your mom starts to become a broken record of requests you can become frustrated and worn down. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Again, this can be because of anxiety your mom is feeling. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">She wants you to do well or worries that certain things that need doing aren't being done. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Put simply, she cares deeply about you but is going the wrong way about showing it.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_The_Critic\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; color: #33cccc;\"><strong>4. The Critic<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Is nothing ever good enough for your mother? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The critic is an energy vampire which can often be seen in families which uphold traditional values. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Being constantly criticized really affects your self-esteem and can make you want to avoid trying in the first place, but stop and think a moment as to why your Mom might be exhibiting this behavior. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Like with &lsquo;The Nagger' criticizing you can often be your Mom's misplaced way of showing she cares about you. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">She wants you to be the best you can be and is, therefore, pointing out what you're (in her eyes) doing wrong so that you can improve.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_Mrs_Over-Protective\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt; color: #33cccc;\"><strong>5. Mrs. Over-Protective<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">If in childhood your mother wrapped you up in metaphorical cotton wool, then chances are this behavior will continue into adulthood. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Being over-protective can often be a result of your Mom's own unstable childhood or anxiety which manifests in a need to keep those they love safe. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">While an over-protective mother can be suffocating, remember it comes from a place of deep love.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_Is_Your_Mom_This_Way\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><strong>Why Is Your Mom This Way?<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">First things first, let's preface this paragraph by stating that not all Moms are the type of <a class=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/married-to-an-energy-vampire\/\" data-lasso-id=\"801\">energy vampire<\/a> mentioned above. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Sadly, some are the nefarious, manipulative, and selfish sort. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">If this is the case for you, then you may need to reduce the contact you have with your mom for your own emotional safety. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">You could also try reaching out to professional services for support and guidance.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">So, why is your Mom this way? <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The answer can largely be put down to a simple phrase &lsquo;misguided love'. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Put simply, your Mom loves you, but may lack the healthy emotional blueprint from her own mother, or may have underlying anxiety which causes her to show her love in an emotionally draining way. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">She likely doesn't realize she's doing this or making you feel this way, and with some help and input can change her way of showing she cares into an emotionally positive form.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Ways_To_Help_Your_Energy_Vampire_Mom\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><strong>Ways To Help Your Energy Vampire Mom<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n<p><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2770 aligncenter\" src=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"840\" height=\"472\" srcset=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom.jpg 840w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom-595xh.jpg 595w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom-585x329.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 24px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-2770 aligncenter lazyload\" src=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom.jpg.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"840\" height=\"472\" srcset=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom.jpg.webp 840w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom-300x169.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom-768x432.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom-595xh.jpg.webp 595w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom-585x329.jpg.webp 585w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 24px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/Helping-an-Energy-Vampire-Mom.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Of course, allowing your mother to continue her negative behavior for fear of upsetting her isn't possible. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">It's not fair for you to be drained simply because you're holding your tongue. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">I know many Moms who, though they might be hurt when initially told by their child how they've been making them feel, will, after a time, be much happier that they know, as they can take steps to change. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Here are some ways that you can help your energy vampire Mom express her love more positively.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"When_Your_Mom_Nags_Draw_Attention_To_It\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong>When Your Mom Nags, Draw Attention To It<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">As mentioned, nagging can often be an anxious response, like an itch. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The only way to scratch it is to ask again, and again, and again. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Oftentimes this behavior becomes habitual, and your Mom likely doesn't realize just how many times she has pestered you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Next time, when she starts to nag, draw attention to it. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The first time say; &lsquo;Okay Mom, thanks for reminding me', the second time say &lsquo;thankyou Mom, this is the second time you've asked', the third time say something like &lsquo; I appreciate your concern, but this is the third time mom', and so on and so forth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Your comments will act as a reminder to your Mom of the frequency of her nagging and provide a chance for her to reflect each time she asks you. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Over time, this can help her to reduce the number of times she nags you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Break_The_Flow\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong>Break The Flow<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">If your Mom is a Gatling Gun then try to break her conversational flow. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">For example, if when you visit your Mom immediately starts chatting at you before you've even got through the door, you can break the flow of conversation by asking if she'd like a hot drink. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The moment needed to pause the conversation and answer the question can be all you need to enter the conversation. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">In general, asking questions is a great way to break up the conversational flow and reduce the stress upon your energy reserves.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Remove_Her_Control\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong>Remove Her Control<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Control freak moms can be the hardest nut to crack because they're often stubborn. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Try putting your mother in situations where it isn't possible to be in control For example, take her to a restaurant that has a set menu. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Not only is this a great way to spend time with your mom and spoil her, but to enjoy her meal she has to let go of control.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The same can be said for taking your Mom on an outing. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Don't let her know beforehand where she is going, and instead frame the experience as a surprise. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This gives you control over the situation and can help you Mom to start to learn that giving up control isn't a bad thing, and can instead lead to something positive.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Tell_Her_How_You_Feel\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong>Tell Her How You Feel<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Critics often don't realize the impact that their words can have upon you. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">They think they're building you up and helping you to achieve greater things when in fact they're knocking you down. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The best way to start to resolve the situation with a critic is to let them know how their words make you feel. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Reassure them by saying that you know they're only showing they care, and suggest more positive ways in which they can encourage you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Establish_Boundaries\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18pt;\"><strong>Establish Boundaries<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">With an overprotective Mom, you can take a two-pronged attack. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Removing control 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