{"id":2662,"date":"2020-03-05T12:37:28","date_gmt":"2020-03-05T12:37:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gator4138.temp.domains\/~seocloud\/website_bd55b9c6\/?p=2662"},"modified":"2023-05-29T09:00:48","modified_gmt":"2023-05-29T09:00:48","slug":"sorry-syndrome","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/","title":{"rendered":"What Is Sorry Syndrome? Plus 7 Signs You May Have It"},"content":{"rendered":"<style>img#mv-trellis-img-1::before{padding-top:56.190476190476%; }img#mv-trellis-img-1{display:block;}img#mv-trellis-img-2::before{padding-top:56.190476190476%; }img#mv-trellis-img-2{display:block;}<\/style>\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Sorry, not sorry! &hellip;Or am I? Welcome to the world of Sorry Syndrome, where over-apologizing is high, and self-esteem is low. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This is my follow up article to &lsquo;<\/span><a data-lasso-id=\"799\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/how-to-stop-saying-sorry\/\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Stop Saying Sorry<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">&lsquo; in which we'll take a deeper dive into <em>Sorry Syndrome (SS)<\/em>, looking at why you might have it, and how you can tell if you do. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">I hope that by learning more about SS you'll be able to look more clearly within yourself and <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">be ready to take the steps needed to break free from its negatively-impacting clutches.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_64 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-grey ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<div class=\"ez-toc-title-container\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title \">Table of Contents<\/p>\n<span class=\"ez-toc-title-toggle\"><a href=\"#\" class=\"ez-toc-pull-right ez-toc-btn ez-toc-btn-xs ez-toc-btn-default ez-toc-toggle\" aria-label=\"Toggle Table of Content\"><span class=\"ez-toc-js-icon-con\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewbox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseprofile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"><\/path><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n<nav><ul class=\"ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 eztoc-toggle-hide-by-default\"><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#First_Things_First_What_is_Sorry_Syndrome\" title=\"First Things First, What is Sorry Syndrome?\">First Things First, What is Sorry Syndrome?<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Why_Some_People_Develop_Sorry_Syndrome\" title=\"Why Some People Develop Sorry Syndrome\">Why Some People Develop Sorry Syndrome<\/a><ul class=\"ez-toc-list-level-3\"><li class=\"ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Insecurity\" title=\"Insecurity\">Insecurity<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Seeking_Acceptance\" title=\"Seeking Acceptance\">Seeking Acceptance<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Anxiety\" title=\"Anxiety\">Anxiety<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Gender\" title=\"Gender\">Gender<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Cultural\" title=\"Cultural\">Cultural<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Why_Sorry_Syndrome_Needs_to_Stop\" title=\"Why Sorry Syndrome Needs to Stop\">Why Sorry Syndrome Needs to Stop<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Common_Traits_that_Those_with_Sorry_Syndrome_Have\" title=\"Common Traits that Those with Sorry Syndrome Have\">Common Traits that Those with Sorry Syndrome Have<\/a><ul class=\"ez-toc-list-level-3\"><li class=\"ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Empathy\" title=\"Empathy\">Empathy<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-11\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Being_Submissive\" title=\"Being Submissive\">Being Submissive<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-12\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Being_Conflict-averse\" title=\"Being Conflict-averse\">Being Conflict-averse<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-13\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Self_PerceptionConfidence\" title=\"Self Perception\/Confidence\">Self Perception\/Confidence<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-14\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Strictness_in_Childhood\" title=\"Strictness in Childhood\">Strictness in Childhood<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-15\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Anxiety-2\" title=\"Anxiety\">Anxiety<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-16\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Past_Bullying\" title=\"Past Bullying\">Past Bullying<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-17\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#Gender-2\" title=\"Gender\">Gender<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-18\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#7_Signs_You_Suffer_From_Sorry_Syndrome\" title=\"7 Signs You Suffer From Sorry Syndrome\">7 Signs You Suffer From Sorry Syndrome<\/a><ul class=\"ez-toc-list-level-3\"><li class=\"ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-19\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#1_You_Apologize_for_Things_you_Didnt_Do\" title=\"1. You Apologize for Things you Didn't Do\">1. You Apologize for Things you Didn't Do<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-20\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#2_You_Apologize_for_the_Small_Things\" title=\"2. You Apologize for the Small Things\">2. You Apologize for the Small Things<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-21\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#3_You_Apologize_Because_you_Want_to_Avoid_Conflict\" title=\"3. You Apologize Because you Want to Avoid Conflict\">3. You Apologize Because you Want to Avoid Conflict<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-22\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#4_You_Apologize_When_Making_Reasonable_Requests\" title=\"4. You Apologize When Making Reasonable Requests\">4. You Apologize When Making Reasonable Requests<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-23\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#5_You_Apologize_Repeatedly\" title=\"5. You Apologize Repeatedly\">5. You Apologize Repeatedly<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-24\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#6_You_Apologize_Because_you_Feel_Youre_an_Inconvenience\" title=\"6. You Apologize Because you Feel You're an Inconvenience\">6. You Apologize Because you Feel You're an Inconvenience<\/a><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-3\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-25\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#7_People_Around_you_have_Told_you_to_Stop_Apologizing\" title=\"7. People Around you have Told you to Stop Apologizing\">7. People Around you have Told you to Stop Apologizing<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/li><li class=\"ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2\"><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-26\" href=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/sorry-syndrome\/#What_Can_you_Do\" title=\"What Can you Do?\">What Can you Do?<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"p4 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"First_Things_First_What_is_Sorry_Syndrome\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\">First Things First, What is Sorry Syndrome?<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Sorry Syndrome is a recently coined term which can be summed up as the <em>overwhelming<\/em> need to apologize for every little thing, even if the individual apologizing isn't to blame or if the event they're apologizing for is completely out of their control. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">People with SS may apologize to the same person frequently throughout an interaction or may have the word &lsquo;sorry' as an <em>automatic response<\/em>, leading them to apologize accidentally, or even to inanimate objects. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">SS is a common thing, and many of us can slip into spates where we're over-apologetic. Let's next take a look at why this might happen.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"p4 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_Some_People_Develop_Sorry_Syndrome\"><\/span><strong><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\">Why Some People Develop Sorry Syndrome<\/span><\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">People pontificate many reasons when it comes to why some people apologize more than others. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">As with most social habits, reasons for being overly apologetic can stem from childhood. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">As kids, we're taught to say sorry whenever an adult's expectations are not met and may incur the wrath of our parents if we didn't. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">After this is embedded in their minds, <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">children can start to associate saying sorry with putting an end of uncomfortable or confrontational situations. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">And, put simply, &lsquo;if it ain't broke, don't fix it!', meaning that we often carry this habit on into adulthood, where it can start to cause problems.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\" wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Insecurity\"><\/span><strong>Insecurity<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">It is also thought that SS can stem from <em>insecurity<\/em>. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">You may feel out of your depth in the workplace, or feel like the<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18.6667px;\">&nbsp;<\/span><em><span style=\"font-size: 18.6667px;\">odd-one-out<\/span><\/em><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">&nbsp;in your friend group, and feel pressure to fit in.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Low self-<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18.6667px;\">esteem<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 18.6667px;\">&nbsp;<\/span><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">also contributes to your likelihood of developing sorry syndrome as you're more likely to feel like you are a hindrance, burden, annoyance, or in the way, meaning you need to apologize frequently.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Seeking_Acceptance\"><\/span><strong>Seeking Acceptance<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Seeking acceptance is another reason why people can over-apologize<\/span>. Lots of <em>superfluous<\/em> apologies can be used to increase trust and social influence. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">However, this does come at a cost which we'll explore later.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Anxiety\"><\/span><strong>Anxiety<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><em>Sorry Syndrome<\/em> can also be linked to anxiety. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">An overwhelming or compulsive urge to apologize can be used as a coping mechanism against feelings of anxiety. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>It can come from an intense worry about saying the wrong thing or doing something wrong.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">These feelings can commonly flare-up in social situations. However saying sorry is only likely to give a temporary release, and the need will likely quickly rise again, creating more anxiety.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Gender\"><\/span><strong>Gender<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Women are more likely to experience SS than men. This all comes down to the differences in which boys and girls are typically raised. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Boys are encouraged to show <em>independence<\/em> and are rewarded when they show direct and confident behaviors. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Girls, on the other hand, though still being praised for this behavior, tend to have an added social expectation placed upon them, such as to be <em><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">confident, but not conceited<\/span><\/em>. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This can lead to the need to apologize surfacing.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Cultural\"><\/span><strong>Cultural<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Of course, where you're from will also impact upon the way and frequency which you apologize. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Americans, for example, apologize far less than those from the UK or Canada.<\/span> <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Argentinians say sorry by inviting the other out for a meal. In Brazil, a small gift shows you're sorry. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">China and Russia have multiple different terms for sorry to be used with different individuals and in different scenarios. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">In Japan, the sincerity of your apology can be judged by how low you bow, whereas the Swedes prefer you forgo an apology and simply explain your actions. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">So, you can see, where you come from can play a huge part in why you say sorry and how often you do so!<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"p4 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Why_Sorry_Syndrome_Needs_to_Stop\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><strong>Why Sorry Syndrome Needs to Stop<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image \">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter eplus-wrapper\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"840\" height=\"472\" src=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome-.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2703\" srcset=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome-.jpg 840w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome--300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome--768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome--595xh.jpg 595w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome--585x329.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 24px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"eager\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"840\" height=\"472\" src=\"data:image\/svg+xml,%3Csvg%20xmlns='http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg'%20viewBox='0%200%20840%20472'%3E%3Crect%20width='840'%20height='472'%20style='fill:%23e3e3e3'\/%3E%3C\/svg%3E\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-2703 eager-load\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 24px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome-.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-1\" data-src=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome-.jpg.webp\" data-srcset=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome-.jpg.webp 840w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome--300x169.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome--768x432.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome--595xh.jpg.webp 595w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/How-to-stop-sorry-syndrome--585x329.jpg.webp 585w\" data-svg=\"1\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Sorry Syndrome may seem harmless on the surface, after all, what can one word do? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">However it's effects are surprisingly far-reaching, and can greatly impact your day-to-day life. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Excessive apologies can alter the way that you are treated and can even entice unkind individuals to associate with you, as they view you as an easy target for their manipulations.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Saying sorry all the time puts you at a social disadvantage. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">You can be viewed as a pushover or as timid because when you apologize at every instance you're waving a social white-flag for the office or your social group to see.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Frequent apologies also lower your self-esteem. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">By saying sorry a lot, you're constantly putting yourself in a position of submission, of being wrong, even though you may be right. <\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This can lead you to perceive yourself negatively and view yourself as someone who is a letdown or failure to others.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">By apologizing often you may also be putting added pressure upon yourself you do not even realize.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"> You may have an innate need to please, which, if controlled correctly isn't a bad thing, but when allowed to run rampant can cause you to be <em>overly-apologetic<\/em> and also become socially exhausted and burnt out.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Put all this together, and saying sorry all the time tends to leave you feeling low, dissatisfied with yourself, and at a social disadvantage. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">But how can you tell if you have Sorry Syndrome?<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"p4 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Common_Traits_that_Those_with_Sorry_Syndrome_Have\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><strong>Common Traits that Those with Sorry Syndrome Have<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">While the traits listed below do not guarantee you'll experience SS, they can make you more prone to slipping into apologetic tendencies.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Empathy\"><\/span><strong>Empathy<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">As many spiritual people are attuned to themselves and those around them they are commonly empathic or have a greater degree of compassion. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This can put them at risk of developing Sorry Syndrome as they can find themselves apologizing for the actions of others.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Being_Submissive\"><\/span><strong>Being Submissive<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>Life is full of dominant people, submission people, and people who are somewhere in-between.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Being naturally submissive isn't a bad thing, it's great to be able to chillax and go with the flow, however, this can leave you more prone to apologizing to avoid conflict.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Being_Conflict-averse\"><\/span><strong>Being Conflict-averse<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Because spiritual individuals tend to see the bigger picture in life, they can naturally be conflict-averse. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">While this is great for being the rational and relaxed one in a friend group, it can also lead to apologizing simply to avoid an argument.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Self_PerceptionConfidence\"><\/span><strong>Self Perception\/Confidence<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This can be an issue that the young face, as you learn who you are and gain confidence with age. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">When you're lacking in confidence or conviction in your actions you can find yourself quick to apologize and acquiesce to the wants of others.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Strictness_in_Childhood\"><\/span><strong>Strictness in Childhood<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">A strict upbringing at home or at school can lead to sorry becoming an auto-response, as you have been raised with firm discipline and therefore know the power of an apology.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Anxiety-2\"><\/span><strong>Anxiety<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">As mentioned if you suffer from anxiety or connected issues such as depression you may be ultra-sensitive to the changes in social situations or in the workplace. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This can leave you with a fear of damaging relationships or letting others down which can lead you to apologize more often.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Past_Bullying\"><\/span><strong>Past Bullying<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Bully greatly impacts your self-esteem and your self-worth, and makes you want to cling onto the friendships and positive relationships you have (trust me, I've been there), this can lead to a need to please, which in turn leads to excessive apologies. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Similarly feeling excluded in your past on lonely can lead you to go to more extreme lengths to retain friendships.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Gender-2\"><\/span><strong>Gender<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">As we touched upon, because of the ways that girls are commonly raised or are imprinted on by the expectations of society, <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">females are much more likely to apologize than men<\/span>, meaning they are at greater risk of slipping into habits such as Sorry Syndrome.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"p4 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_Signs_You_Suffer_From_Sorry_Syndrome\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><strong>7 Signs You Suffer From Sorry Syndrome<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image \">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter eplus-wrapper\"><noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"840\" height=\"472\" src=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs.jpg\" alt=\"woman suffering from sorry syndrome \" class=\"wp-image-2704\" srcset=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs.jpg 840w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs-300x169.jpg 300w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs-768x432.jpg 768w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs-595xh.jpg 595w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs-585x329.jpg 585w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 24px), 720px\"><\/noscript><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"840\" height=\"472\" src=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs.jpg.webp\" alt=\"woman suffering from sorry syndrome \" class=\"wp-image-2704 lazyload\" srcset=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs.jpg.webp 840w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs-300x169.jpg.webp 300w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs-768x432.jpg.webp 768w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs-595xh.jpg.webp 595w, https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs-585x329.jpg.webp 585w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) calc(100vw - 24px), 720px\" data-pin-media=\"https:\/\/subconsciousservant.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/03\/sorry-syndrome-signs.jpg\" id=\"mv-trellis-img-2\" data-trellis-processed=\"1\"><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">There are some clear signs that you might be wrestling with Sorry Syndrome. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">While experiencing one of the entries on this list usual denotes a simple quirk, recognizing more than one of these traits is likely to indicate that you have SS and need to take steps to change your habits.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"1_You_Apologize_for_Things_you_Didnt_Do\"><\/span><strong>1. You Apologize for Things you Didn't Do<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This is a common experience for empathic individuals. When someone has had a hard day do you apologize despite having nothing to do with the cause of their woes? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Do you find yourself apologizing for the actions of your oblivious friend? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Do you apologize for factors that are outside of your control such as bad weather or a late train? <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">If so then <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">you might need to work on changing your attitude towards apologizing.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"2_You_Apologize_for_the_Small_Things\"><\/span><strong>2. You Apologize for the Small Things<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This often happens when individuals muddle apologies with politeness. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Yes saying sorry in the right situation is part of being polite, but apologizing during day to day occurrences is excessive. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">For example, apologizing when taking longer than a few seconds to do something, or for making a noise in a quiet space such as a library isn't necessary.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"3_You_Apologize_Because_you_Want_to_Avoid_Conflict\"><\/span><strong>3. You Apologize Because you Want to Avoid Conflict<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">The worst thing you can do is apologize simply to avoid conflict or save face. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This not only represses your emotions which were probably valid, leading to the increased likelihood of explosive arguments in the future, but it also means that <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">in the future your sincere apologies could be viewed by others as disingenuous or meaningless.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"4_You_Apologize_When_Making_Reasonable_Requests\"><\/span><strong>4. You Apologize When Making Reasonable Requests<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">If a request is reasonable, for example asking a colleague to print you off a copy of a document, or asking a friend to pick you up a snack on their way over, then there's no need to apologize. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">If you find yourself saying sorry when asking for simple things then you may have Sorry Syndrome.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"5_You_Apologize_Repeatedly\"><\/span><strong>5. You Apologize Repeatedly<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">If you find it hard to keep yourself from saying sorry several times during an interaction with a friend, family member, or colleague, then you may have developed apologizing as a nervous response when feeling uncomfortable or anxious. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">While this coping mechanism may be effective for short term relief it's important to find a healthier solution to your feelings.<\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"6_You_Apologize_Because_you_Feel_Youre_an_Inconvenience\"><\/span><strong>6. You Apologize Because you Feel You're an Inconvenience<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Apologizing, for this reason, is directly linked to low self-esteem. <em>Sorry Syndrome<\/em> thrives in those who do not see their own worth. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Take some time to get reacquainted with yourself, and <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">remember that you matter just as much as anyone else!<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"p5 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"7_People_Around_you_have_Told_you_to_Stop_Apologizing\"><\/span><strong>7. People Around you have Told you to Stop Apologizing<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Sometimes we become oblivious to a habit, particularly when its automatic or subconscious. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">This is why the input of our friends and family should always be listened to and never dismissed. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><strong><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Oftentimes the first time you'll notice you have a problem with apologizing will be when those around you tell you to stop apologizing.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"p4 wp-block-heading eplus-wrapper\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"What_Can_you_Do\"><\/span><span style=\"font-size: 24pt;\"><strong>What Can you Do?<\/strong><\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">If you've confirmed your suspicions that you have Sorry Syndrome the next thing you need to do is to take action! <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">In my previous article, I explored several steps that you can take to stop apologizing and reduce your cavalier use of the word sorry. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\"><strong>While some of these steps will take some practice, it is important to remember that <em>Sorry Syndrome<\/em> isn't something you're stuck with.<\/strong> <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">It is a habit that you have formed as a way to cope with feelings of low self-esteem, anxiety, or simply the way you were raised. <\/span><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"p3 eplus-wrapper\"><span style=\"font-size: 14pt;\">Either way, it does not define you, and with some work and perseverance can certainly be overcome. 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