Relationships can get messy, confusing, and complicated at times.
When it comes down to it, we never know what to expect when we fall in love with someone.
Part of what makes relationships confusing is the not-knowing aspect.
Men, in particular, are known for giving all kinds of mixed signals.
So it's easy to make you unsure if he loves you or not.
When it comes to knowing his intentions, actions will always speak louder than words.
It's easy to say flowery words, but you better believe his actions.
There are a million little ways a man can show he likes you, but If a man really loves you, he will do the following things below.
15 Things a Man Will Do If He Really Loves You
1. He loves to talk to you
You'll see how much a man loves you by the frequency of how he talks to you.
Whether through text messages, calls, or any communication method, he will do everything to talk to you every day.
Even if he's busy, he'll make time for you as you're that important to him.
If a man really loves you, he will want to talk to your everyday.
While it may not be constant throughout the day since you both have your individual lives, a day won't pass he doesn't talk to you.
It's not that he can't, but because he doesn't want to.
He genuinely wants to know everything about your day, including even the minor details.
2. He prioritizes emotional and mental intimacy
The most evident way you can actually tell if you matter to a man is how he values and emotional intimacy.
It's no surprise that men care about physical intimacy but valuing aspects like deep conversations, being vulnerable with you, and things like that are how you know he's serious about you.
He loves you if he provides all types of intimacy for you – emotional, mental, and physical.
A guy won't just do this for anyone, but he'll only give this for someone he genuinely cares about and loves.
So if you notice that he doesn't open up much with his friends but does this with you, what you have is real.
3. He can't shut up about you
When a man deeply cares for you, he tells all his friends and family about you.
Even if people try to stop him from gushing on about you, it doesn't work.
He absolutely loves talking about you, whether it's his favorite things about you, the times you spent together, or even how you met.
His happiness radiates outside of him through the way he talks about you.
If a man really loves you, he will not stop talking about you to the people he loves most.
Whether you've met them or not, he wants everyone to know who you are and what he loves most about you.
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4. He spends time with you
Quality time is the most underrated love language but is a significant one.
If a man really loves you, he will constantly want to spend time with you.
It doesn't matter what you do together; whether it's a romantic dinner or a hike in nature, all that matters for him is that you're spending time together.
Watch out for signs such as surprising you at work or going for a long drive just to visit you at home.
These are things that only a man who loves you will do.
He won't bother with the effort if he genuinely doesn't care about you.
As we said above, actions will always speak louder than words.
5. He introduces you to his loved ones
This is a vital sign to know for sure if he loves you.
Men don't just introduce anyone to their families and friends.
They only introduce someone if they think it's the right girl for them.
So if he introduces you to everyone, he's basically saying he loves you and wants everyone to see what about you he loves so much.
He wants his loved ones to see why you make him so happy.
If a man really loves you, he will ensure that all his friends and family meet you.
6. He becomes your best friend
It's an underrated thing to experience that the person you love is also your best friend.
When he loves you, he doesn't just act like someone who wants to be with you, but also like your best friend and partner in crime.
He'll want to talk to you all the time, have inside jokes with you, laugh at the most simple things, and things like that.
You can see it in his eyes if his happiness is genuine or not.
If he treats you both like a girlfriend and a best friend, he's crazy over you and is in love with you.
7. He does the things you love
No guy would ever endure the things a woman loves unless he genuinely cares about you.
Especially if your hobbies are the opposite of his, like shopping, working out, or going to museums – and he goes with you despite him not liking them – he's doing it for you.
He sees it as a way to spend quality time together and also to show you how much you really mean to him.
He endures your hobbies and passions because he wants to develop more intimacy with you and connect with you further.
If a man really loves you, he will make sure that he does every hobby you have.
He's not doing it to get something out of this, but he's doing it from the purest of intentions.
8. He plans things with you
A man won't just make plans with anyone, but he will only do so for the person he cares about.
So if he's taking the initiative to make short-term plans, especially long-term ones a year from now, he's serious about you.
If a man really loves you, he will not hesitate to make any type of plans with you because this generally means he sees himself with you for a long period.
He's not just casual about you, but he includes you with any plans he makes.
Whether it's with his cousin's wedding or planning a beach getaway with you, he obviously cares about you that he wants to include you in each plan of his.
9. He defends you
A man who loves you will defend you at all costs.
Especially when someone badmouths you or offends you, he will be there to protect or defend you.
Men love feeling like the hero when it comes to the girl he loves so if you feel that he's rather protective of you, he loves you.
Of course, this isn't to be confused with being controlling or possessive, but he just wants to protect what's his or what he wants to be his.
He deeply cares about you and wouldn't want anything bad to happen to you, even if it's as simple as someone badmouthing you.
10. He takes care of you
If a man really loves you, he will want to take care of your well being at all costs.
This means emotionally, mentally, and physically.
He'll be by your side when you're sick, when you've had a bad day, when you feel exhausted from life, or any other situation where he sees he needs to take care of you.
When a man is in love, he thrives on feeling needed in whatever manner.
Even if it's as simple as you needing to rant about something, he's there for your emotional needs when it counts.
11. He remembers the little details
Here's the thing – being a great listener is a hard quality to find.
When a man deeply cares about you, he will listen to every story you have.
Even when you're ranting about this coworker that annoys you or telling him about your deepest passions in life, he'll remember every detail.
So when it comes to special occasions or surprising you, he knows exactly what to make you smile and how to melt your heart.
It's because he listens attentively.
12. He shows vulnerability
If a man really loves you, he will not hesitate to be vulnerable around you.
Men don't really like showing their feelings, as it's seen as a sign of weakness.
However, if he doesn't hesitate to open up around you and you notice he only does this with you, his feelings for you are real.
He won't do something as uncomfortable as open up about his emotions if he doesn't genuinely care about what you both have.
So if you've witnessed him being in a vulnerable state and he let you see him that way, he trusts you enough not to take his vulnerability for granted.
13. He is patient
There's a saying that says – love is patient, love is kind.
This is frankly one of the most accurate pieces of advice when coming to love.
We're all impatient and impulsive by nature.
We want things right away, and we're used to instant gratification.
So when he waits for you and is patient around you, he cares about you more than you think.
Even when he has every reason to be angry, even if you're making him wait before making things exclusive, even if he's waiting for you to get out of work, he's a patient man around you.
If a man really loves you, he will not complain about waiting because he knows you're worth the wait.
14. He goes out of his way for you
Actions will always speak louder than words.
He definitely loves you if you notice that he goes out of his way for you.
Maybe he surprises you with flowers, visits you at work, asks you on dates even when he's exhausted from work.
These actions show how much he loves you and values your time together.
Even when he's exhausted, he knows it's worth the effort and sacrifice as long as he sees you and gets to be with you.
15. He accepts you unconditionally
The real test of a man's love is his ability to handle your flaws and imperfects.
If he's seen how you get angry, when you get a temper, and how impatient you can be – and he still chooses to stay and loves you even more despite them – that's love.
This is an important one because not everyone can handle our flaws and imperfections.
If he accepts your flaws and doesn't try to change you or turn you into his personal project, he's in love with you.
5 Things Your Man Will NOT Do If He Really Loves You
1. He won't disrespect you
Disrespect is the primary factor in whether your man loves you or not.
He has to respect your boundaries, opinions, beliefs, values, and principles.
He has to respect that you have a voice that deserves to be heard and that you're his equal.
The last thing you should tolerate is a man seeing himself as above you or disregarding your boundaries.
Having boundaries lets people know you respect yourself, and it teaches others how to love you.
Without respect, it's impossible that he loves you as both those aspects are connected.
Without respect, there also won't be trust in the relationship.
2. He won't gaslight you
Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that people use even in relationships.
Obviously, if a man cares about you, he should never manipulate you, no matter what.
He shouldn't make you feel bad about opening up or playing the victim when you get bothered about his actions.
These are not behaviors of a man in love with you.
The last thing a man in love with you will do is manipulate you because he knows that it's the fastest way to lose you in his way, which he never wants to happen.
If a man really loves you, he will never ever manipulate things in his favor.
3. He won't take you for granted
If you're someone who has a kind and selfless heart, it will be easy for people to take you for granted.
In fact, this may be your recurring fear in every guy you meet.
If he loves you, the last thing he wants to do is to take you for granted.
Instead, he will ensure he provides for your needs in the relationship.
If you open up that something is lacking, he will try to become better for you.
He will never take advantage of your kind and selfless heart because he doesn't want to lose you.
4. He won't invalidate your feelings
If there are any intimacy aspects women typically lack, it's emotional intimacy.
Does he validate your feelings and try to understand your perspective when you open up, or does he tell you that you're just being dramatic or does he not listen?
The emotional intimacy between you and any guy is how you can know if he cares about you or not.
If he validates your feelings, he cares about your wellbeing and doesn't want you to feel sad or frustrated any longer.
5. He won't make you feel alone
A relationship is and will always be a partnership.
Even if you're not yet exclusive, if he already makes you feel alone as early as it is, that's a massive red flag.
This doesn't mean you have to be physically together all the time, but it's more about making you feel secure emotionally and mentally.
If he's too busy that you're at the last of his priorities or he doesn't care about your emotional needs, that's a few ways you'll feel alone.
What To Do If A Man Doesn't Love You?
If you found out he really doesn't love you after all of the things mentioned above, it's time to walk away.
We know it's not the answer you were seeking, but it's the most practical advice.
If your man doesn't love you, it's no longer your responsibility to change his mind.
You can't change yourself either for him to love you, as that's not how love works.
The earlier you accept the facts, the better it is for the both of you.
Think of it this way – if he doesn't love you, you can walk away knowing that you weren't meant to be.
In reality, if you were meant to be with him, you shouldn't have to try so hard to convince him of the reasons why.
He should naturally feel the love in his heart.
Summary
In conclusion, if a man really loves you, he would do all of the abovementioned things.
If you're getting mixed signals or just genuinely want to decipher his feelings for you, hopefully, this article was able to help.
Most importantly, learn that you should never settle for less in a relationship.
If he doesn't love you, then that's that – end of story.
You shouldn't try to change his mind because that's the thing about feelings – you can't change them. It's either he loves you, or he doesn't.
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