The phrase ‘When in Rome, do as the Romans do’ means it is polite and possibly advantageous to abide by the customs of a society when one is a visitor. It is also taken to mean following others for the sake of conformity and convenience, and to avoid unnecessary exertions. In the latter, loose interpretation, it is adopted as a philosophy of life by many people.
A lot of us believe in following current trends without using our scruples too much, as it is easier to go along with the crowd than invite curiosity, ridicule or opposition. It is an attractive proposition, as one can escape potential embarrassment and hostility. But such thinking, and course of action, also condemn us to mediocrity and are unlikely to help us achieve anything exceptional. Anyone who wishes to do something worthwhile in life has to do it on the foundation of sound principles and character. This may call for swimming against the tide.
It is values that make life worth living, and preserving them enriches life even if no one around us appreciates those values. One who embodies values is a source of strength and inspiration for others. As Mahatma Gandhi said, “Even if you are a minority of one, the truth is the truth.” Truth has such power that it manifests itself without anyone having to prove it. Living by high ideals may not be a bed of roses and one may have to face opposition for persisting on a path that looks irrational to others, but that is the price to pay for having a clear conscience and the knowledge and satisfaction that what one is doing is right.
There are examples in history of men and women whose ideas and actions were little appreciated in their lifetime, but were later recognised as outstanding. Even man’s scientific progress has been made possible by individuals who challenged prevailing dogmas and conventional ways of thinking to reveal the truth.
Modern scientific research and management practices encourage original and ‘out of the box’ thinking to find innovative and effective solutions to problems. But while such nonconformity is welcomed for the practical benefits it brings, when it comes to upholding values that may not be fashionable, surrender is the first choice of many. This is because we do not recognise the value of what we are giving up.
Certain principles and values are what keep us human. Their benefits may be intangible at times, but together they form the foundation of a civilised society. The gradual abandonment of values in the pursuit of unrestrained self-indulgence is now recognised as a contributory factor behind some of the social ills afflicting modern societies.
When we swim against the tide to preserve and uphold values that we cherish and know to be right, we save ourselves from going down the drain to decadence. Heeding our conscience and acting by our best instincts enhances our moral strength and power of judgment. This enables us to make the right choices in situations that test our character and good sense.
A sound character and judgment help keep us on the right track in life, saving us from mistakes that can ruin the lives and reputations of even brilliant individuals.
Following one’s inner voice brings peace of mind as it averts inner conflict. This helps us remain stable, light and happy. And since truth cannot be hidden forever, siding with the truth ultimately, and always, brings victory.
B.K. Sheilu is a Rajyoga teacher at the Brahma Kumaris headquarters in Mount Abu, Rajasthan.
