Being loving yet detached creates benevolence

There is great benefit in being a detached observer of the unfolding story of humanity. Each one has passed through various incarnations. We have accumulated so many experiences from different roles, relationships, and situations through all the physical costumes that we have occupied. We have brought all these impressions into the body we now occupy.

We have become accustomed to identifying so strongly with the body that we are constantly aware of, and speaking about, “this is mine”, “my” this, “my” that, in such a way that to be detached from our current experiences is a little difficult at first. If I react to loss, insult, praise, then I am not being a detached observer.

Each soul I meet has a different nature, different karmic situation, all different from mine. So, I need to remain light, remain benevolent to all so that it is easier to observe what is happening around me, giving myself time to respond correctly.

If we base our detachment on spiritual love and with wishes of peace and love for each one, it is easier to become a detached observer. We can see, in the world around us, how many things are happening that are not correct, and even we behave incorrectly from time to time, but by becoming detached from the actions of others, remaining unaffected, we can be free from reacting in a way that is not helpful. We have to act in life and fulfil responsibilities, but we can do this in the best way possible by being a detached observer.

If we begin to compile a list of complaints rather than watching the situations we are involved in with a loving, detached eye, we cannot resolve the situation in the right way. Everyone around me is doing what they have to do, but I have to do what I have to do, in the very best way possible. This brings a great sense of peace. I then know when to act, when to speak and when not to.

Spending time in meditation from time to time during the day, we begin to develop the power to observe in this way. Early morning meditation is the very best time to practise observing the world, and our own situation, with detachment and love. Life then begins to show us wonderful secrets, our complaints begin to finish, and we are able to improve the atmosphere at the place we are and share all of these kinds of benevolent experiences with others.

B.K. Vedanti is the director of the Brahma Kumaris’ services in Africa.