An American expatriate in India, John, recently shared a humorous video on Instagram, highlighting how Indian men often switch into ‘lecture mode’ during conversations. In the video, John jokes about how these discussions can turn into lengthy 30-minute monologues, even on topics they are not well-versed in. He shared personal anecdotes where Indian men have lectured him about American culture, despite his own background in the US.
“Do you agree? Many times when I try to talk to Indian men it turns into a 30-minute lecture,” John wrote alongside the video.
The video has sparked a playful debate online, with many finding it relatable and entertaining. One commenter remarked, “There are no disagreements. No negotiation. There are one-sided conversations. Now you know how women feel.” Another added, “It is an Indian thing. All are authorised to lecture the person younger to them. Even when they don’t know the topic or subject. I advise you not to waste a second on such idle people.”
A third user noted, “Wow. I completely agree, in fact I would like to add that men cannot listen to women at all. Either they will completely ignore what we say or they will go into trauma. I feel blessed that I am surrounded by a few Indian men who listen and it is wonderful to be around them.”
Another commented, “I won’t stereotype, but yeah, to an extent, it is true for many Indian men, especially the ones from the older generation.” A fifth user said, “Quite common, especially men. Lack of education and most people are bad listeners. However, it makes life easy for me—saves me the trouble of talking; I just listen and later my girls and I have a good laugh for days.”
John, a digital creator and American expat in India, is married to an Indian and enjoys sharing his experiences and observations about life in India through his reels and vlogs.